Celebrating the Holidays with Adult Kids and Less Stress

I hate to sound cliché but the holidays are upon us. Yes, we are only in the first few days of October, but you know I’m right. Christmas decorations have taken over Hobby Lobby; even Target has started a small section for Christmas lights. Thanksgiving and Christmas will be here […]

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What Comes Next: When Your Adult Kids Face Difficult Times

Sometimes I think back to the struggles and hard times Gene and I have had in our marriage, especially the early years. I remember feeling hopeless and helpless. I remember wondering if the situation would ever change. Then I try to remember what brought about change. Was it a piece […]

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What Comes Next: When Your Kids Make Decisions You Don’t Agree With

I wrote Love No Matter What: When Your Kids Make Decisions You Don’t Agree With after our oldest daughter launched. Katie was in her early twenties and both of us had been in process to grow our relationship and make better choices. Lots of life has happened since the book […]

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How I am Building a Lifelong Relationship with My Kids

“Without relationship you have nothing.”* This quote is from my book, Love No Matter What: When Your Kids Make Decisions You Don’t Agree With. The older I grow the more I realize its truth. Without relationship we have nothing. Relationships are the core of life. The first and most important […]

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Be Ready for the Talk

In case you missed it, last week I was thrilled to have my first op-ed published in The Christian Post. I discussed having “the talk” with your kids about sexual abuse and harassment. The key to these conversations is the condition of your relationship with your child. If your child doesn’t […]

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One of the Best Parts of Releasing Your Kids

Sitting here after a tiring day of running here and there, I’m thinking what is worth writing about today? What was the best part of my day? That’s easy—talking to all three of the girls in the same day and that happened today. Yesterday I talked about the grief of […]

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Are You Brave Enough to Give Your Child Wings?

“Send your kids to a local college so they will marry locally and stay close to home.” This was the advice someone gave to my friend whose daughter is a high school senior. I know this mom was well meaning. Hey, who doesn’t want her kids close? I confess I […]

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Three Keys to a Healthy Relationship with Your Teen/Young Adult Child

Later this week I will travel to spend time with Katie and her husband. We are all very excited. There was a time many years ago when I could not have imagined a fun visit like this. Most of you have read either here or in my book, Love No […]

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Two Tips to a Better Relationship with Your Adult Child

Did seeing your adult child during the holidays make you sad? Were you made more aware of the choices he is making that your don’t agree with? You loved being with your child, but you came away from your family celebrations with an ache in your heart. You sense that […]

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Do You Want to be Active and Relevant in Your Child’s Life?

  At the end of last week Gene and I spent a couple of days helping our youngest daughter and our son-in-law move into their first “in the city” apartment. They are so excited! They love the big city and love being in the midst of it. The first day […]

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