This Is What Love Looks Like

This is what love looks like—well, today at my house anyway. Today Gene finished this gate and also one on the other side of the deck. It swings out and has a latch on the other side. These gates will make my life so much easier. I can turn the dogs out on the deck so they can play and not be under my feet all day. The Grand and I can play on the deck without me having to follow him up and down the steps twenty million times in an hour. And they look pretty. We used to have two large piece of thin plywood to keep the dogs on the deck. They were not pretty. Aesthetics matter to me. Beauty and an organized space make me feel happy.

All the above reasons aside, the gates speak love to me because Gene made them for me. He understood it was important to me to have nice, functioning gates, so the gates became important to him. I so very much appreciate this about my man.

And I try to do the same for him. I listen attentively as he explains his latest plumbing dilemma at Kelsey and Caleb’s house, and as he tells me the latest installment of the fox saga at work (several baby foxes hang out on the property where Gene works). I love foxes so it’s easy for me to get into those stories. However, I have no idea how plumbing works so it’s harder for me to follow what he’s explaining. But I’m learning. Why? Because plumbing is important to Gene.

So if you need marriage advice or you need to give someone marriage advice, maybe try to make what’s important to your spouse important to you.


Brenda Garrison is an author and speaker who empowers women with the confidence to live their calling. Brenda is currently pursuing a Bachelor of Science Degree in Ministry Leadership with a Concentration in Women’s Ministry at Moody Bible Institute. She and her husband, Gene, are the parents of three young adult daughters and live near Metamora, IL.

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