One thing I miss most about my girls being on their own is our daily interactions. I miss doing life with them. I found a way to keep the connection in a way that works for everyone.
This is so simple you might miss it so read slowly.
I text them pictures of a part of my day that I think they would like or laugh about if they were here. For Katie, it’s almost always a picture of her beloved cat, Beatrix. For Kerry, it might be a really cool find at Target, as shopping there together is our shared adventure. For Kelsey, it’s actual word texts as we both love to talk.
My only motive is to share part of my day with my girls. This is not a fishing-for-information expedition.
Also, I expect nothing in return. Yep, if they don’t get back to me it’s okay. If I need information or need to know how they are, that is communicated in a different text.
These fun texts serve three purposes. First, I share my day with the girls and feel they are a part of my day. Secondly, they receive a fun piece of home even if they don’t have time to respond.
Finally, these texts build trust with my girls. They trust I can have a relationship with them with no ulterior motives, trying to manipulate, or elicit a response. We are building healthy adult child/parent relationships.
That’s it. Text a fun pic to your kid today. Both of you will feel more connected to each other. Isn’t that what we want—to be a healthy part of our kid’s adventure called life?
I’d love to see the fun pics you email to your kid!
Brenda Garrison is an author and speaker who empowers women with the confidence to live their calling. Brenda is currently pursuing a Bachelor of Science Degree in Ministry Leadership with a Concentration in Women’s Ministry at Moody Bible Institute. She and her husband, Gene, are the parents of three young adult daughters and live near Metamora, IL.